I’m not trying to say that being “hate-able” is a strategy for getting guys attracted. They’re kind of gray, on-the-fence, neutral thoughts unless spiked with emotion or inspiration from the outside.
So when a person believes strong enough that they are hot and irresistible, the minds of others subconsciously pick that up and just roll with it (unless given a massive reason not to). Even when you’re not a guy’s type, if you believe he wants you hard enough, oftentimes you’ll tip the scale and his mind will make an exception for you.
To improve your relationship, improve your life and your love for yourself. First, let’s be clear on “liking” and “attraction”.
If a relationship “makes you” crazy, neurotic and paranoid, it is inevitable that the relationship will fall apart (and it will fall apart even quicker if you on your crazy, neurotic, paranoid state of mind and blame him for it…) Fill your life with activities you love, people you love, etc. I remember one girl that I at first, but found really attractive.
Thing is, sometimes women make “identities” out of their problems – what starts out as a quirky, lighthearted complaint keeps getting repeated until it suddenly becomes their reality and they believe that this is out of their control.
Your beliefs and your dating/relationship reality are completely under your control.
Fill your mind with love for yourself – the woman who wants love from the world but cannot bring it about in herself will be forever thirsty for love… We eventually hooked up and it was actually pretty awesome… The important thing is not to confuse “liking you as a person” and “feeling attraction for you”. I’ve had women I’ve loved as people but couldn’t force an ounce of attraction for them if I tried. This is similar to what I was saying at the first part – when you ASSUME he wants you, you are far more likely to have him end up wanting you. Because when you think you’re hot, you come across as confident.